After the relationship ends...

Hey Brother,

After a relationship ends, it's common for you to want to reach out and see what went wrong or if your suspicion was right or any derivative of seeking some sort of verification on whether the relationship is truly over.

As a man, this is the wrong move.

Reasons why are quite simple:

1) She will never truly tell you the truth. If your suspicion is of the caliber where you end things, she'll do and say everything in her power to convince you otherwise of the truth (she is emotionally smarter than you, she'll never admit it)

2) If she does unload on you as to why its over, itll almost never be the actual reasons why. Just what seems like the reasonable things to say to make her seem like the good one in the end.

3) Lets say she does tell you why its over. And lets say its not her fault but yours (if she fucked up and you ended it, its over, point blank), then you will constantly be playing catch up. She will constantly bring up this scenario 100x at any misgrievance, she will hold it over your head to the point it’ll ruin the relationship far worse than it ever was

4) If there’s distrust from an instance of disloyalty, she can sing you any song, you wont be able to hear it because you cant trust what’s now a snake to you. Even if she is being truthful, you wont be able to differentiate; trust is gone, its over

You want closure as a means to know whether there’s still a chance, but you as the man should control the tempo. So if you’re seeking validation from her in this respect, shell control the flow, and it wont end the way you want it to. Better off cutting it short, and finding better prospects for the future

Lastly, its not difficult to know whether or not you fucked up somewhere. You don’t need to ask her anything, instead ask yourself. Lotta times you did nothing wrong and she just wasn’t a good blueprint.

Chalk it up to the game

-MOS