After the relationship ends...

Hey Brother,

After a relationship ends, it's common for you to want to reach out and see what went wrong or if your suspicion was right or any derivative of seeking some sort of verification on whether the relationship is truly over.

As a man, this is the wrong move.

The reasons why are quite simple:

1) She will never truly tell you the truth. If your suspicion is of the caliber where you end things, she'll do and say everything in her power to convince you otherwise of the truth (she is emotionally smarter than you, she'll never admit it)

2) If she does unload on you as to why it’s over, it’ll almost never be the actual reasons why. Just what seems like the reasonable things to say to make her seem like the good one in the end.

3) Let’s say she does tell you why it’s over. And let’s say it’s not her fault but yours (if she fucked up and you ended it, it’s over, point blank), then you will constantly be playing catch up. She will constantly bring up this scenario 100x at any misgrievance, she will hold it over your head to the point it’ll ruin the relationship far worse than it ever was

4) If there’s distrust from an instance of disloyalty, she can sing you any song, but you won’t be able to hear it because you can’t trust what’s now a snake to you. Even if she is being truthful, you won’t be able to differentiate; trust is gone, it’s over

You want closure as a means to know whether there’s still a chance, but you as the man should control the tempo.

So if you’re seeking validation from her in this respect, she controls the flow, and it won’t end the way you want it to.

Better off cutting it short, and finding better prospects for the future

Lastly, it’s not difficult to know whether or not you fucked up somewhere.

You don’t need to ask her anything, instead ask yourself.

Lotta times you did nothing wrong and she just wasn’t a good blueprint.

Chalk it up to the game

-MOS