Never try to impress her

Hey Bruv,

Conventional dating advice has always been flawed.

For centuries, society has pushed the idea that men must work hard to impress women, to win their approval.

But if you want to stand out and trust me, you do—you need to reject this outdated way of thinking entirely.

The only person you should focus on impressing is yourself.

Why?

Because a random woman’s opinion of you is insignificant in the grand scheme of things. Sure, she might be wonderful, but her approval doesn’t define your value.

At its core, this is a problem of neediness.

When you’re trying too hard to impress, it shows. And no matter how impressive your achievements might be, coming across as desperate for approval kills attraction.

Think about it:

The wealthy businessman flaunting his designer watch and luxury shoes comes off as needy, just like the guy in a bar bragging about a sports car he doesn’t even own.

Different levels, same issue—they’re both trying too hard.

Attraction is About Perceived Value

Yes, attraction often comes down to value.

If a woman perceives your value as equal to or greater than hers, she’ll likely be interested.

But the problem lies in how you communicate that value.

Here’s where the classic advice, “show, don’t tell,” comes in.

Your value should be obvious without you having to explain it.

It should radiate naturally, like a subtle but captivating fragrance.

If you constantly talk about your accomplishments or try to prove yourself, you’ll come across as boastful, untrustworthy, and desperate for validation.

It’s a strategy that backfires every time.

Stop Trying to Impress

From now on, approach social situations with a mindset of not trying to impress anyone.

Instead, let your actions, demeanor, and presence speak for you.

Let others sense your value without you having to spell it out.

When people recognize your worth on their own, it’s far more powerful and far more attractive.

This is how truly influential and confident people operate.

Wouldn’t you like to carry yourself the same way?

If you’re ready to take your confidence and social skills to the next level, then get my book “Master the art of cold approaching”

Live life on your terms, not someone else’s expectations.

Take care,

-MOS