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Hey Brother,

First dates can be interesting experiences.

Often, you'll find that the woman you're meeting doesn’t quite look as attractive in person as she does on Instagram.

You might have a few lines and ideas prepared in advance, but once you sit down, your mind goes blank.

You start thinking, “How do I keep her interested?”

This is the biggest mistake guys make on first dates—they feel like it's their job to entertain her.

But that’s not the case.

Your real goal should be to screen her, not impress her.

Think of it as if she’s applying for a spot in your life.

The first date is your chance to see if she’s more than just a pretty face.

Unfortunately, too many guys let the woman take the lead.

She starts asking the questions, and suddenly you’re the one being interviewed.

When this happens, you’ve fallen into the trap of accepting her “employer” role, where she’s evaluating you.

To avoid this, you need to break out of that frame.

For example, if she asks, “What are you looking for?”

Don’t give a straightforward answer right away.

Doing that allows her to control the conversation, making you the follower.

And women are usually more attracted to leaders, not followers.

Instead, flip the script.

You could reply with something like, “I’m not really looking for anything, just seeing if cute girls like you can prove me wrong about something.”

She’ll likely ask, “What’s that?”

You could respond with a playful line like, “That cute girls are usually bad in bed. But hey, why are you trying to make me talk about sex? You seem like the type who just lies there and does nothing. Haha, just kidding.”

In that short exchange, you’ve done a few key things:

- Teased her in a playful way

- Flipped the conversation so she’s the one talking about sex

- Complimented her by calling her cute

- Challenged her with a playful comment about being able to handle you

- And most importantly, you’ve taken control of the interaction.

From here, if you had:

Magic spells to build rapport and make her chase you

Exact questions to ask her to connect deeply with her

Word-for-word sequences designed to charm her pants off

You'd be UNSTOPPABLE.

Btw, those are excerpt from my book “What women want”

GET LAID EFFORTLESSLY

• MOS