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Hey Brother,

Many guys may be discouraged from thinking this way due to a scarcity mindset or old-fashioned values, rather than low self-esteem.

So let's explore:

HOW WE'VE BEEN CONDITIONED:

We might believe that a girl who sleeps with us quickly does so with many guys, leading us to assume she has a high body count.

This logic seems sound to us.

WHAT'S THE ACTUAL REALITY:

Some girls might have sex on the first date for various reasons:

=> She's particularly horny at that time of the month.

=> She hasn't had sex in a while and just wants to.

=> She's in a phase of exploration.

=> She likes you and is spontaneous.

There are countless reasons why she might do it.

It might not be because she's already into you as a person or your specific vibe. You might just fit a certain image or stereotype.

Should you encourage this behavior?

WE'RE IN 2024, NOT 1964:

You're unlikely to be her first-time lay, especially after a certain age.

So how would you feel if she held out for you because "she didn't want to risk messing things up" because she "really likes you?"

With experience, and knowing how impulsive women can be, this is often just a cover-up.

When women are really into a guy, it doesn't take much texting or interaction for her imagination to run wild in his favor. Sometimes, the less she knows, the better.

Where her imagination of you can come from:

=> Your looks

=> Your status

=> Your lifestyle

The question you should ask yourself is:

“If she liked me that much as she says, was I actually worth the risk of her being pumped and dumped?”

On another note, how would it make you feel if she made you wait for countless dates “because she liked you” when some guys hit it off with her in just one night?

You think your girl is different?

Newsflash: she's not.

And neither are you special.

THIS IS NOT A GUARANTEE:

Am I saying that if she sleeps with you on the first night, she definitely likes you?

No.

Am I saying that if she sleeps with you later than that, she's not that into you?

Yes. You might think otherwise, but you're going against the odds.

WHY AM I SAYING THAT:

We're living in a time where women have more agency than ever, even if they don't always take responsibility for it.

They have more power and freedom than before, and giving away sex quickly is a way for them to wield that power.

If she gives away power quickly, it's usually a good sign.

But always consider the CONTEXT.

If it's a night where she's super drunk and just looking for anyone, then the above might not apply much.

It's different if there's chemistry on the first date.

ONE THING TO LOOK FOR:

COMPLIANCE to your requests:

=> How willing she is to go on first dates

=> How quickly she responds to your texts

=> Is she open to changing plans for your first date

=> How enthusiastic she is overall

When people are really excited about something or someone, they'll have a hard time hiding it.

You should be able to feel it.

That's why people often say their relationships "just happened naturally."

WOMEN INVESTMENT IS LESS EASY TO GET THAN IT WAS:

With all the distractions like entertainment, friends, and work, it's harder to catch and keep her attention.

Does her having sex with you mean you're her top priority? No => You're just someone she's interested in.

By age 25, it's common for girls to have had around 20 partners on average.

You might think that's too many, but that's the reality. Don't waste time trying to find a virgin.

There are other signs to look for to see if she's just fooling around or serious about you.

Appreciate those who like you and see how things progress.

Real connections are rare, so don't make it harder on yourself.

Until next time

-MOS