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THE FEMALE VERSION OF COLD APPROACH IS "PROXIMITY"
Hey Bruv,
When a woman spots a man that they find intriguing, they sometimes place themselves close to him to tempt him to make a move on them.
This isn't always a conscious decision.
They may "feel your energy" or smell something good about you to gravitate towards you etc but...
Regardless of the reason, women will place themselves in front of you or close to you in some way.
You might have walked in one direction and somehow find that she has walked in front of you twice or she might bump into you, suddenly taking an interest in the shelf you're also interested in.
At the club or bar, she dances close to you or sits close to you while ordering a drink.
Women capitalize on proximity cause they know that the natural order is for them to be approached not them to do the approaching (plus it sucks to get rejected and women loathe rejection much more than men).
So you approach her not the other way round.
But if she is excited about you?
Then she'll make it easy for you to get close to her as much as possible.
She'll bait and test you before even knowing your name.
Next time, you're in a social setting then you should pay more attention to this - girls that gravitate around you.
For me, in such situations, I usually walk around to different areas of the venue and then spot which girls subconsciously gravitate around me or even bump into me.
In extreme cases, girls will ask you why you're running away from them lol.
As I said, proximity is the female version of a cold approach cause women are subtle creatures so she'll try to catch your attention subtly while at the same time, making her way towards you and trying to get you to initiate a conversation to get to know you.
Proximity is a greatly overlooked concept but it's one to study and pay attention to when you are outside.
-MOS