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"What Are You Looking For?"
Hey man,
Here’s something important you need to understand about women:
When you’re honest about your intentions too soon whether it’s for a date, a hookup, or something long-term—it can often backfire.
Women crave a sense of mystery and discovery.
Laying everything out too quickly can kill the passion or curiosity they might have felt for you.
Why does this happen?
As some women start feeling the pressure of time especially around things like settling down or starting a family—they might come right out and ask:
“What are you looking for?”
This question isn’t about love.
It’s about business.
She’s trying to evaluate if you align with her personal goals.
But here’s the key: Giving her a straight, direct answer often works against you. It takes away the sense of excitement and curiosity she needs to invest emotionally in you.
Women don’t just fall for what you say; they fall for how you make them feel.
When she asks, avoid being too vague or too certain.
Instead, give her an answer that keeps her interested while subtly steering the conversation back to a more playful or engaging tone.
Try saying:
This answer does two things:
1. It reassures her without locking you into anything.
2. It leaves room for discovery, keeping the dynamic fun and light.
If she’s only seeing you for what you can provide—money, stability, or status—you’ll often notice this right away.
If you’re fine with just having fun and nothing serious, proceed as you like.
But if you want to be valued for more than what’s in your wallet, consider whether she’s worth your time.
At the end of the day, maintaining a balance of honesty, confidence, and mystery is what keeps things exciting and puts you in control.
Until next time,,
-MOS