What are you looking for?

Hey bruv,

Here’s something you need to understand about women:

When you’re upfront and honest about your intentions whether it’s for the night, a date, or even long-term plans—you’ll often ruin any spark of passion, love or attraction she might have felt for you.

This can even kill your chances of sleeping with her.

Why does this happen?

When women feel their biological clock ticking, they tend to ask questions like, “What are you looking for?” early on.

This is a sign she’s not focused on love but is treating the interaction like a negotiation.

However, if you immediately lay all your cards on the table, you remove the mystery and excitement she needs to feel invested.

Women are drawn to the process of discovery, so revealing too much too soon often backfires.

Instead, give her a general answer that aligns with what she wants to hear without locking yourself into anything concrete.

For example, say something like: “I’m open to something serious, but it really depends on the person.”

This response gives her enough to stay interested but keeps the door open for more possibilities.

If she’s only interested in what you can provide materially, she’ll usually be more overt about it.

In that case, being vague or non-committal will work against you because she’s looking for reassurance.

If you’re okay with being valued purely for your resources, that’s your choice.

But if you want to be appreciated for who you are and she’s only attractive to you physically, it’s best to keep things casual and not overthink it.

Take care,

• MOS

Ps: I got caught up in a lot of things hence the lack of activity on here, but hey I’m back so let’s get back to changing your dating life positively.

Keep winning!